Ask for Exactly What I Want
Repeat that to yourself again. Have you ever missed out on something because you didn’t ask for what you wanted? You have to ask in order to get and people hesitate to ask for fear of rejection. “No” isn’t something people like to hear and also don’t know how to overcome when they do hear a no.
You will fail at 100% of the things you don’t ask for. Sometimes people don’t ask because they are afraid of getting a yes. Yes comes with an entire different set of circumstances. For instance if you were going for a goal and asked for something in relation to that goal and got a yes, that means you have to step up your game.
Stepping up your game may seem like an overwhelming thing and as a result you either consciously or subconsciously avoid asking in case you do get it. If that is you, take a look at what is behind that and do some work to get past that so you don’t sabotage your goals and dreams.
Maybe you don’t like to ask because if you ask because you were taught as a kid to not ask for things and that asking is rude. There are some people who grew up that way. I felt that way from my upbringing. For me, I didn’t ask because I wanted to stay out of the way and not stir up the drama. Living in a household with alcoholic parents made me walk on eggshells all the time. I had to unlearn some behaviors.
Just remember, if you get a no the first time, great! That’s your first no. It’s only an offer or maybe a rejection of the offer. Ask as many times as you need to or as many people as you need to in order to get what you want. If you can’t get it one way, find another way to ask or somebody else with the answer. Just ask.
See you next week!
Eldonna Lewis Fernandez, MSgt USAF Retired