Dare to Suck
Dare to suck?
Why would anyone want to purposely set out to suck at anything? That seems contrary to being successful. The thing is, most people won’t take a risk at doing something whether it’s negotiation or something else for fear of failing.
Deciding you’re going to ‘dare to suck’ puts you in a different mindset than I’m going to do this and I fear failure. Face it, the ‘first is my worst’ when it comes to doing anything. The first time you attempt something is going to be the worst you will ever be at anything. If you realize that and be ok with totally sucking at something, and know you will get better every time you do it after that, it becomes less of a thing to fear.
It’s as if we are in a time of perfection where everything is expected to be perfect. There are ‘one mistake’ jobs where if you make a mistake, any kind of mistake, you will suffer serious consequences for making a mistake.
Of course in some professions there is no room for certain mistakes. That’s not what we are talking about here. If you are going into a negotiation and you have done your best to prepare and chart out a strategy and you bomb it big time, that’s okay. My first big negotiation was a total disaster. I had no clue what I was doing and no one was telling me what to do or how to do it, the manager sitting next to me just kept passing me notes that said I was doing good.
Since that time, I’ve never ‘sucked’ that bad in negotiation, ever! Realigning your thoughts with the ‘dare to suck’ philosophy releases some of the fear around whatever task you are setting out to accomplish and actually makes whatever you are doing more attainable.
Dare to Suck!
See you next week!
Eldonna Lewis Fernandez, MSgt USAF Retired